Friday, June 12, 2020

Obviously not accurate, and yet, has a measure of truth.

I like this whimsical sign.



Obviously, we're *not* only in need of water and sun.  We need sleep, companionship, mental stimulation and so much.  And we're not houseplants!

And yet, I enjoy how this trivial sign is a reminder, too, that in some ways we really need few tangible things to have a good life.  And, also, we do need to manage our complex emotions.

Emotions that include anger, fear, sadness, grief are difficult.

My hope is that all persons can live in a world spurned 
on by more hopeful and loving emotions.

My hope is that all persons can live in a world characterized 
by less fractured and hurtful emotions.


Let's do more to share water, sun and care & compassion, one to another.


Toward eupan ~

~ marty alan michelson, ph.d.

Tuesday, June 9, 2020

We get better when we own our actions and apologize

We can learn how to be better by studying the habits and practices of peace-able persons, peace-making communities, and by studying what has worked to achieve peace between and among persons, individuals and nations.

Cinnie Noble has written books and articles to help persons engage conflict toward reconciliation and peace.  Cinnie Noble founded CINERGY® Coaching and is former social worker and lawyer, Cinnie is a certified mediator (C.Med).

At her blog today she shared more than the abbreviated version I'll include below - as you are encouraged to read her presentation fully at her site.


The reality is people on the receiving end are not always ready for an apology – we might still be processing our hurt about what was said or done; we might not be otherwise ready to move on; we might consider the behaviour exhibited as unforgivable. Some have heard too many apologies from the other person for the same behaviours, and feel trust has broken down irreparably. . . . The following set of questions invites you to consider an apology you want to make for something you said or did, and also, one in which another person made an apology to you for something they said or did – but you have not accepted it.
  • What is the conflict about – the one for which you want to express an apology? What do you want to apologize for?
  • If you were to try out the apology (just in our conversation here as a practice) what would you say to make it ‘right’?
  • How might that apology as you expressed it be received by the other person (your answer to the above question)? If you don’t think the apology, as described in the previous question, would be well received what else might you say that might be?
  • What actions or words will you use – or not use going forward – that will reflect the sincerity of your apology – something or some things you will change so you won’t contribute to a repeat of the same sort of interaction?
  • What dynamic between you and the other person in this scenario make the change(s) you plan challenging? How might you overcome the challenge(s)?


Toward eupan ~

marty alan michelson, ph.d. 

Monday, June 8, 2020

Can a Virus Push us to become Better?

The impact of SARS-CoV-2 and COVID-19 are intriguing at many levels.

It will be interesting to discern the future impact of this pandemic.

It has reshaped the world.

A few intriguing studies in the news today include:

Some personality types are less likely to cohere to social distancing/social care.  Individuals can negatively impact the future of societies.

Fossil Fuels may never recover from the impacts.  (Personally, I think fossil fuels will persist for many decades, simply based on the number of "end-user" needs in the forms of current vehicles on the road.)

A single nation, acting with social/government intentional impact, while impacted by SARS-CoV-2 has demonstrated they can "conquer" it.  Good Job New Zealand. 

And, it's evident that when people acted with some intention in shut-downs and social-distancing - lives were spared from COVID-19.  Social care and social action can make the world safer, better.



We can be better.

We need more social advocacy and shared commitment to one another - to the health and wholeness of all persons.


Toward eupan ~

~ marty alan michelson, ph.d.

Friday, June 5, 2020

Communication, Clarity and Data should inform our Social Transformation

I am sharing a comprehensive website about a social change advocacy program with metrics and data about police issues, police policy, and public political policy with safety issues.

Because the website and the data are new to me in recent days, I reserve the right to not agree with nor advocate for *every* *individual* issue.

The content data within the site, as well as the quality of graphics/handouts, and the presentation of relevant data is important to our public conversation.

We can live in a world where the police don't kill people by limiting police interventions, improving community interactions, and ensuring accountability.
comprehensive package of urgent policy solutions - informed by data, research and human rights principles - can change the way police serve our communities.

More at https://www.joincampaignzero.org/

A four-page PDF, with data and their suggested policy changes is at this link.


We can be better.

We can act better.

We are imperfect.

Political and social change are needed to insure all persons are cared for and protected. 

Stronger social cohesion within more loving & caring communities is possible.


Toward eupan ~

~ marty alan michelson, ph.d.